A shamanic session account describes someone understanding hardship as something chosen before birth, partly to learn through experience. Is that a helpful spiritual frame, or can it end up excusing harm?
How should I think about a story that says we choose hard lives before birth?
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If someone finds meaning in that idea, they can hold it as a spiritual possibility rather than a proven explanation. The account may offer comfort by making suffering feel less random, but it doesn't establish that anyone actually agreed to be hurt.
I would keep the practical message separate from the cosmic story. Compassion and forgiveness can matter without deciding that pain was planned or deserved.
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There isn't a reliable way to verify a pre-birth memory from a trance session, so I wouldn't treat the account as evidence about what happens before life. It can still be discussed as an experience or belief, but those are different claims.
The claim that a parent accepted a painful role also needs care. It shouldn't be used to minimize abuse, shift responsibility onto the person harmed, or discourage practical support.
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I'd focus less on whether the story is literally true and more on what it does to the person hearing it. If it brings them steadiness or a way to reflect, that may be useful. If it leaves them feeling they chose their suffering or must forgive someone before they're ready, it isn't helping.
You can look for understanding while still naming harm clearly and setting boundaries.
SilverNotebook:
Right. Forgiveness can be a personal choice, not a debt someone owes because of a spiritual explanation.
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MossyWindow:
That distinction helps. A personal source of meaning doesn't have to become a rule for how anyone else should understand their pain.