Should I focus on healing instead of trying to get my ex back?

I’d put your safety and recovery ahead of any attempt to influence the relationship. Since you’ve described a suicide attempt and serious drinking problems, please keep leaning on professional care and people you trust. If suicidal thoughts return or you feel at risk, contact emergency services or a crisis line where you are, and tell someone who can stay with you.

A ritual can support your own steadiness, but it can’t replace that care or guarantee what your ex chooses. I’d avoid love, obsession, or domination work for now.

If spellwork matters to you, keep it pointed inward: protection, clarity, patience, and support for recovery. A simple candle or written intention can be a way to mark what you’re choosing for yourself, without directing anyone else’s feelings or actions.

Cancer season might feel meaningful as a prompt to reflect, but his sign can’t tell you what he wants. I’d skip a spell aimed at the other person too. Their relationship is theirs to decide, not something you need to intervene in magically.

The practical part is less mystical, but probably more useful: give the breakup room to settle, and work on the issues that were making the relationship unhealthy whether or not you reunite. If you eventually reach out, keep it honest and low-pressure, then let his response, including no response, stand.

Wanting him back is understandable, but a spell can’t repair trust or make both people ready at the same time. Healing work for yourself seems like the safer place to start.