I joked that I’d join a cult if it love-bombed me. It’s funny on the surface, but it got me wondering: how do you tell affection from manipulation?
Is wanting that much attention really a red flag?
Asked by
druv
Answers
Wanting warmth and attention isn’t the red flag. Watch what comes with it. If someone pushes for instant trust, loyalty, or commitment, or tries to pull you away from other people, that’s very different from ordinary affection.
Reply to this answer
Honestly, the joke makes sense. Feeling welcomed is lovely. Just keep your boundaries switched on: a healthy group can let you take your time, say no, and keep your other relationships without making you feel guilty.
Reply to this answer
If the joke has a real little ache behind it, the need might be for connection, not a cult. Look for low-pressure ways to meet people where care builds over time and you’re free to disagree or leave.
Reply to this answer
Add your answer
Answers are reviewed before publication.